Coping with Sexual Assault
UNCW strives to support the families who have have been impacted by a sexual assault. Below are tips for parents of sexual assault victims, parents of students accused of sexual misconduct and parents who want to help their student support a victim of sexual assault.
Parents of Sexual Assault Victims
If your daughter or son confides in you that she/he has been sexually assaulted, you may experience a number of conflicting emotions, including many explained at http://www.uncw.edu/safe-relate/parents.htm.
- Realize that your feelings are valid.
- Consider utilizing stress reduction techniques to manage anxiety and don't blame your son or daughter, but instead believe your child.
- Seek outside resources and support for yourself.
- Let your child ask for what he or she needs, and try not to assume that you will automatically know how to address those needs.
Parents of Students Accused of Sexual Assault
If you learn that your son/daughter has been accused of sexual misconduct under the UNCW Code of Student Life, contact the Office of the Dean of Students to access resources for your child and to talk about how you can best support your student through a difficult experience.
You can also contact the UNCW Collaboration for Assault Response & Education (CARE) office at 910.962.CARE (2273).
Help Students Help a Victim of Assault
The above information can also be useful in cases where you are supporting your student who is attempting to help a friend who has been assaulted.Your student may feel overwhelmed, angry, frustrated or helpless in this situation. You can further be helpful by:
- Sharing the resources on this website with your student.
- Explain to your student that his or her feelings are normal, including frustration if his/her friend is not taking the steps he/she wants the friend to take.
- Urge your student to consult with the professional staff of the CARE office to discuss their feelings or concerns. All consultations are confidential.